22. Help

My 31 Free Writes for October play out like a serial love story in an old time magazine. It’s the saga of a young woman and how God leads her to the love of her life. Each day offers new developments in a romance only the Lord could write.
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Genesis 2:18 “Then the LORD God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.’”

Happy in the life I had chosen to live with my husband, I set out to discover just what it meant to be his helpmeet. Thanks to some wonderful books we had read during our engagement David and I talked through many aspects of married life like how we would handle our money, when we might start having children, and our roles as husband and wife.

Discussing potential problem areas before we had any issues helped us to consider an issue with a proactive rather than a reactive response. This is so important for all soon to be married couples to do.

However, it’s all theory until you get the first set of bills you have to pay as a married couple. That’s when the rubber meets the road.

We understood that marriage was not a fifty-fifty arrangement. What happens if one side weakens for some reason? You have a gap that has the potential to divorce the two sides. But if the pledge is to put forth a 100% effort on both sides there is a strength that undergirds each other in the most difficult of times, especially knowing that the Lord is your foundation and covering.

My desire was to walk alongside David in this new life of ours. He would be the greater among equals as the head of our home. We mutually submitted ourselves under Christ, out ultimate authority.

At times this arrangement looked a bit like running a three-legged race. Disagreements brought about a struggle to regain our pace and style as we’d stumbled over each other. The only way to get back on the right foot, as it were, was to pause and reestablish our commitment to each other and ask the Lord for forgiveness so we could begin again.

It doesn’t come easily for two to become one in a race or in a marriage. We’ve stepped on each other’s toes by accident and yes, even on purpose. Time out is called and we go to the One who judges us both and reminds us that we are on the same team.
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He wants us to be victorious over the sin that trips us up and cheers us on in our unified pursuit to the finish line.
 
Ephesians 4:3 being diligent to preserve the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.

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